Confidence - that inner self-belief that you can take on pretty much anything you want and if you don’t succeed, you’ll simply try another way. Why is it that some people just seem to ooze it? For others the mere thought of speaking in public, leading a pitch, doing a presentation or following up on a potential sale just fills them with fear. A fear that’s so real it brings on nausea, sweating and racing heart. It ruins any chance you have of taking on particular challenges, realising opportunities or engaging with certain people.
When confidence is low you simply don’t believe that you can accomplish whatever it is that’s in front of you. Lack of confidence stands in your way, maybe leaving you in a frenzy of indecision or massively frustrated that you just can’t seem to do it. If you do close your eyes and jump in, anything but rampant success will crush your confidence further, leading you to hold back even more as you slide into a spiral of ‘what if’ behaviour and hey presto! - you’re stuck.
Confidence levels usually go up and down in line with what is going on in your life – if things are going brilliantly for you, you may feel ready to take on the world, potentially breeding more confidence and, in turn, more success. But when you just can’t seem to make any progress with the things you want to do or when everything you touch seems to go wrong, you can drive yourself down into a rabbit hole and find it hard to re-emerge.
And it’s when you’re in that dark and uncomfortable confidence-free zone, that you may find it hard to accept the notion that confidence can be created. External praise and pats on the back won’t build lasting confidence. It comes from within. Building it is a skill and therefore confidence can be developed.
With the challenges and changes that many of us are facing during Covid-19, it’s now more than ever that you may need to feel confident. If you want to stop worrying, understand your value and stop the negative self-talk, here are my top 10 tips to help you get cracking: